Healthy Relationship Tip – How to Stop Repeating Negative Patterns in Your Relationship

September 2nd, 2010

Jeff slammed the kitchen door, threw his lunch pail with a clatter and stomped into the living room where the TV suddenly blared. Past experience taught Sara not to say a word, so she gave him a quick wave at the living room doorway. He grunted and channel surfed as if his life depended it. She didn’t dare ask a question when he was upset if she wanted a healthy relationship.

Sara had begun to study what “works” between herself and Jeff and do more of that instead of repeating the same negative patterns. First she eliminated anything that made him bark at her.

If you wrangle over the same issue time and again and can’t resolve the conflict, it can destroy a healthy relationship. Are you ready for something different, a method that can turn everything around? The first step is a biggie: Accept his feelings. For Sara that also meant, Don’t ask questions. Don’t offer advice. Don’t “make better.”

When Jeff is in a good mood, it’s easy for Sara to respond with acceptance. She celebrates his success with him, reflecting back what he feels.

It’s harder accept when his mood is terrible, but it’s crucial for their healthy relationship. “I want to kill my boss!” can be upsetting to hear. She bites her tongue on words like, “Don’t say that!” or “Why on earth?”

Negative Pattern Blasters That Work Like Magic!

1. Listen quietly and attentively.

Absorb what he says and how he says it so you can understand the feeling behind it. Don’t take what he says personally, even if he shouts that something is all your fault. You’ll see why in a minute.

2. Acknowledge his feeling by saying “Oh,” or “Mmm,” or “I see.”

That’s not enough, you might think. Surely you need to reason with him? No. Just be a sounding board, absorb, absorb. You’re not agreeing with his feeling. You’re acknowledging his feeling.

3. Give the feeling a name.

Is it anger, frustration, maybe indignation? “You seem angry,” she says. You lose no points if you guess wrong–he’ll gladly tell you and provide more information. “No, I’m just sick and tired of him changing what he wants every five minutes. I can’t stand it. He’s making me as crazy as he is.”

4. Give him his wish in fantasy.

“I wish I could give you the world’s best boss right now.”

Of course, she can’t, but what happens next can be amazing. Once he feels heard, he can get past the feeling and start thinking more clearly. Next thing you know he can work creatively on solutions.

With practice, this way of accepting all feelings can become a way of life with undreamed-of rewards besides a healthy relationship. Jeff might use the listening technique and create a healthy relationship with his boss or gains skills that get him a better job offer.

And now I’d like to invite you to sign up for my FREE Top 10 Relationship Nurturing Secrets e-Course to turbo charge your relationship and make it better starting today.

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Why Take Home Improvement Loan?

September 2nd, 2010

Nowadays everyone dreams of making improvements to one living space but the monthly budget may not give the luxury of getting your plan in action. Home improvement gives you a chance to make your dreams. A home improvement loan can help you to finance repairs and other improvements in your homes. Home improvement loans make it easier for the individuals to adorn their homes with features that they were not able to at the time of buying or cons Read the rest of this entry »

Metal Awnings

August 30th, 2010

An awning, when installed over a window, a terrace or a balcony, provides protection against direct sunlight, wind drafts, rain or ice, without shutting out the surrounding view. The view of the house is enhanced when its doors and windows are covered with awnings of an appropriate color and style. Terraces, decks, and balconies can be converted into large covered areas that become airy attractive additional rooms with the proper use of awnings.

Metal awnings are usually made of aluminum, copper, iron, or steel, depending upon the architectural requirements of the building. Usually, vertical metal panel awnings and window or door awnings are of solid, stationary construction of strong ribbed heavy gauge materials, for all-weather durability against wind, rain, and sun. Depending on the individual shape and configurations, the awnings may or may not have distinguishable sides. Aluminum awnings are available in solid or striped styles and in several attractive colors. Metal awnings are available in several distinct types, depending on the functional requirements of the individuals.

Horizontal window panel or louvered awnings have an angled slat design with space between slats that enable the person inside the house to see out but prevent anyone from seeing in. Overlapping slat design also allows the sunlight to filter in indirectly. Aluminum slats are usually made of heavy gauge with a baked-on enamel finish that resists chipping, cracking, and peeling.

Retractable or roll-up metal awnings are usually constructed from flexible horizontal slats without any visible space between slats when the awning is in open position. They are controlled with a hand cranking device or cord pull. Storm awnings are specially made of heavy-duty materials and can be pulled down to cover and protect the entire window during a storm or worse, a riot.

Aluminum door awnings are designed for installation over the door to help keep stairs, entries, and landings free from excessive rainwater. They have to be installed with enough head clearance to allow the door to open. Copper, iron, or steel rigid type awnings are excellent for protecting doors and windows from the elements.

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Enormous Impact with Exterior Dollhouse Design

August 29th, 2010

It’s easy to get carried away with decorating the interior of your dollhouse, but there is far more to bringing real life down to miniature size than what goes in your house. The exterior of your dollhouse can make your scene look complete. Paying careful attention to detail and spending a little time on the outside of your dollhouse can turn it into a work of art.

There are limitless possibilities as to what you can do to enhance the exterior appearance of your dollhouse. A great place to begin is by designing and building a garden, or by creating some landscaping effects. Not only will this give you the opportunity to utilize your design skills in a different way, but will now have an excuse to learn how to make furniture for a dollhouse garden. You will find a great deal of satisfaction as you hone and prune your miniature garden to create an idyllic outdoor setting for your dollhouse to set in.

Trying to replicate real life outdoors is just as important as the realism of the interior. Many miniature collectors like to have outdoor spaces that look lived in, such as a backyard scattered with tiny child’s games or a small swing set. A pet or two may make the dollhouse look like somewhere a typical family lives and bring a sense of belonging to the scene.

There are certain features that add a greater sense of reality to the exterior of your dollhouse. A dollhouse car, a mailbox, trees, and a driveway are all features that may not be missed when you don’t have them, but that add so much richness and depth to the scene one you’ve added them. You may find yourself wondering how you ever let the display go for so long without them. The difference that they make in your miniature collection will be striking.

Some enthusiasts choose to change the exterior d?cor of their dollhouse seasonally. In the same way that you would decorate the exterior of your home for the holidays, you can come up with creative ways to decorate your dollhouse. When you roll the barbeque grill out onto your patio for the summer, do the same with your miniatures. Patio sets and metal doll lawn furniture are other seasonal additions that give your dollhouse a sense of reality. It may seem slightly out of place if you have your dollhouse designed in a warm and cozy wintertime theme and it’s ninety degrees outside.

However you choose to utilize your creative abilities on the exterior of your dollhouse, keep in mind that there isn’t really a right or wrong way to do it. As long as you make sure the exterior scale matches the interior scale you can decorate the exterior however you want without ruining the integrity of the display.

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Interior Design Ideas For a Living Room

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A living-room serves as the main room of the house; it serves as a multi-purpose room, which can be used for entertaining guests, to relax or retire at night and read a book, to watch a movie or TV, listen to music and much more. When playing the prime role in the house, a living-room needs to give the impression of a trendy, up-to-date yet extremely comfortable living space.

A living-room plays a number of roles, serving from an in-home movie theatre to a study room, but the most significant role played by a living-room is that of a TV lounge. This is the reason why, most of the time, the main focus while refurbishing a living-room is kept on the television – its position in the living room, the placement of the sofas or couches opposite to it and other aspects regarding the television. This is good if one considers the living-room solely a TV lounge. If a living-room is used as a multi-functional span then before setting it up, every single aspect of the room is to be taken in.

The living-room can be used for entertainment and also for formal occasions. Therefore, interior of living room should be paid special attention. The living-room reflects your personality and has to be decorated and styled according to your comfort and needs. Following are some living-room interior design ideas:

If you have a chimney or fire place area in the sleeping-room, you can make it the centre of the room. Make a small conversation area, using cushions or small tables and chairs in front of the fire place. Place the television and sofa or couch in the other corner of the apartment. Placing lamps in the corner and using large paintings in the rooms will add to the beauty and warmth of the room.

One should use a combination of light and dark contrasting colours but they should not be shocking. Do not use very dark colours on the walls as it will make the apartment space look smaller and congested.

Placing a love seat by the window in the room will make a good small corner for reading too. Placing matching or contrasting rugs in the room will make it more beautiful. Use simple decoration items. There should not be many large decor items; only one centre piece is enough. The centre piece can be placed on the table in the centre of the room.

The large piece used should be sofas, couches, chairs and bookcases. Another good idea to make use of old furniture is by using covers of rich heavy fabrics. One can also paint the furniture of dark wood colour that gives the room a classic look.

Placing fresh indoor plants can also be very useful. Small potted trees and plants in the sitting-room look refreshing to the eyes and also clean the air. Right items like furnishings and decors can greatly improve the interior of your living room if used properly.

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Portable Air Conditioning Units Cool Your Room’s Air the Handy Way

August 27th, 2010

Do you currently have?a large centralized air cooling system? Does it take up space in your house or in your office room where other things should be placed? Does your electric bill parachute in figures every month? Well, worry no more for portable air conditioning units are here to the rescue.

What are portable air conditioning units? These are products of the modern day, which are actually air?cooling systems?with wheels. Because of it being handy, transferring and using it from one room to another is of no trouble.? Its relatively smaller size makes storage and?installation easy and with less hassle. The space you wanted so much for your bookshelves can be placed on the spot where you want them without your?system bothering you.??

Portable air conditioning units?are like other air?cooling devices that operate on the principles of refrigeration. Here, the air around you is used to exchange heat. Just like the process of rain formation, air is taken out of heat by absorbing it then heat is given off as condensed water. The air then is being dehumidified as it is cooled. After condensing the heat, hot air is vented out of the cooled surrounding.?

There are various portable air conditioning units today, which you can choose to your heart’s desire. Currently available are those with capacities of 6,000 to 60,000 BTU/h (1,800 to 18,000 watts output). These units may come with or?without electric resistance heaters.? True portable air conditioners are of two kinds: split and hose. However, evaporative coolers also referred to as conditioners are also portable.?

A split system portable air conditioning unit is composed of unit with wheels usually inside the room or building to be cooled and an outdoor unit that are composed of flexible pipes. The hose system on the other hand can be Air-to-Air or Monoblock systems. The hot air?is usually vented outside through ducts. In the Monoblock type, a tray or a bucket is included in the system. These act as?a collector of the condensed water. It also has built in detector that makes the operation stop once the bucket is full.

In this manner, your floor will never be flooded with water popping out of your air conditioning systems. The Air-to-Air type does not collect water in a bucket but re-evaporates the water and disposes it through the ducted hose. Ducts in Air-to-Air version usually have a single duct that collects air out. However, efficiency is lowered in this type because the air produced is replaced by hot air coming from outside the cooled area. In modern units though, this problem was arrested since modern units work in 1:3 ratio. For example to produce 3?kW of cooling, 1?kW of electricity is needed. In contrast, dual duct unit?draws air from outside and cools it instead of using the air inside the room. This makes the unit more efficient in cooling the air.???

So if you are planning to buy a new?cooling system or thinking of replacing your old one? Think of portable air conditioning units. Its portability and cost efficiency pays off in the end.

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Real Estate Negotiation Secrets

August 27th, 2010

When you bought your home, you offered less than you were willing to pay, right? That’s the most common negotiation technique. For experienced investors, however, that’s just one little secret among the many more powerful ones. What else can you do?

How To Make An Offer

1. Offer an odd amount, like $161,793. This gives the impression that you know something the seller doesn’t. They may think you have a good reason for that particular price.

2. Play dumb. Ask questions, talk slow, ask for help, and never show off your real estate expertise. Sellers are afraid to budge if they think a smarter person may be taking advantage of them.

3. Use the “limited authority” ploy. Say “I’ll have to check with my wife (or partner).” It’s easier for sellers to accept that you can’t do something, rather than the idea that you won’t.

4. Refer to precedent. “My father bought his house this way.” If the offer is at all unusual, sellers will feel more comfortable if they know it has been done that way before.

5. Ask for things you don’t want. This lets the seller win concessions when negotiating. If you can say, “I guess I don’t need the refrigerator, if I can get my price,” you’re more likely to get your price.

6. Be reluctant. “well, I don’t know…” Reluctance gets the seller looking for ways to motivate you, and lets him feel like he’s won something when you settle the point.

7. Make the offer their idea. “Are you saying you’d like a later closing, and more earnest money? Well let’s do it your way, then. I just need…”

8. Get a yes before the offer. “What if I paid your price, but got my terms? Would that work for you?” Even with a few changes, it will be hard for the seller to say no to an offer he more or less already agreed to.

9. Flatter the seller. Flattery has been proven to be worth an average of $1962 in real estate negotiations. That’s a joke, by the way, but you know if he likes you, you’ll probably get a better deal.

10. Pass over problems, and return to them later. Agree on every agreeable point first. It will feel like the house is sold then, and it will be difficult for a seller to lose the deal over an issue or two that you need to go in your favor.

You can spend a lot of time looking for cheap houses. Why not spend a little time learning how to purchase every home for less, with some smart negotiation?

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Zen Interior Decorating

August 26th, 2010

Designing your apartment based on Zen principles can give you a more relaxed and peaceful state of mind. Though you may not be familiar with the terms and quotes Zen masters recite, you can still give your home a slice of nirvana. Here are some tips you can follow in order to have that mystic eastern feel in your home.

What is Zen?

Zen can be very hard to understand for those who have just encountered it because they will usually encounter paradoxical questions such as “what is the sound of one hand clapping?” and phrases such as “To become the Buddha, you must kill the Buddha” which can easily confuse you. So what exactly is Zen then? Unfortunately, the ambiguity of Zen does not allow it to be pinpointed with a specific definition.

First of all, Zen is not a religion. This is because they do not have priests, scriptures, and dogmas that guide or determine what a Zen monk should do. Second, it is not a philosophy. Zen does not have any systematic form of presenting their ideas unlike your typical western philosophies. The best way to describe what Zen is that it is a state of mind that heightens our awareness to the here and now without relying fully on our opinions and ideas.

Zen interior decorating uses the harmonious interaction of space and form within your home or apartment. This gives you a more soothing and relaxed feel, giving you the great amount of rest which you deserve.

The Zen approach to interior decorating promotes minimalism. Zen uses the bare essentials within a dwelling and each item in the house has a specific use. The best colors to use to have that Zen touch in your home are earth tones such as brown. Lighting is also important for a Zen home, and this is achieved by letting more sunlight through large windows.

By letting the principles of Zen on light, space and function interact harmoniously within your home, you could have a happy home that is in-sync with nature and the world around you.

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If you have kept yourself up to date with what is going on around the world, I’m sure you are aware that we are currently facing a health epic. Research has shown that there has been a 95% increase in the number of teens who are obese and suffering from various diseases. The main cause to individuals being overweight has mainly been sourced down to the desserts that they eat. For this reason there has been a lot of urge from medical professions to get individuals to eat healthy dessert recipes in comparison to normal ones. The good thing about them is that they are known not to increase your weight as long as they are eaten in proportion. Many doctors are urging everyone, regardless of your age, to switch to recipes for healthy desserts. Consuming desserts on a regular basis takes place in nearly every home. For this reason it is important that we all focus our attention towards eating healthy dessert recipes. There are many reasons why these recipes are better than ordinary dessert recipes.

The good thing about these healthy recipes is that they are known to contain a minimum level of sugar. All of these recipes are known to use some form of alternative in regards to giving the dessert a “sweet” taste. Most of them are known to use sweeteners or sugar that is recommended for diabetics. If you have ever tried recipes for desserts that are healthy, you will be surprised to see how they offer the same taste as normal desserts but don’t leave you a hundred pounds heavier. There are many places where you can find these recipes.

If you are planning to try a few healthy dessert recipes, then there are many places where you can start looking. There have been some books published on them however the cost factor may put you off a bit. Not to mention the hassle of going down to the book store. For this reason you may be better off looking for an alternative source that supplies these recipes. One place where you can find information almost instantly on recipes for healthy desserts is online. There are many websites online that are offering a variety of recipes that you can choose from.

When looking for websites that offer recipes for healthy desserts, make sure that it is from a reliable source. There are many websites that are putting up normal dessert recipes as healthy dessert recipes. If you are someone that is found in the kitchen a lot, I’m sure you will easily be able to point out recipes for healthy desserts due to the ingredients that are used. If you are still unaware of which are actually healthy, just cross reference your results. Ideally look for a well known website to find your recipes, as this way you will be sure that they are truly healthy.

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French Country House Plan – How To Get It Right And How To Screw It Up

August 22nd, 2010

French Country is a popular home design style nowadays, both exterior and interior. This article addresses the French Country home design style on the exterior.

WHAT’S IT ALL ABOUT?

Do you think that French Country, or the effected Country French, is a home design style? We’d say, “Not exactly.”

French Country is a range of home design styles -

1. From an early French farmhouse to not quite a French embassy

2. From residential design styles, including but not limited to Rustic French, Rural French, French Provincial, French Eclectic, Chateau (French version of the English Manor House), and the namesake French Country

3. From in-between Cajun style and Louisiana Plantation style

4. From the time period in America bracketed roughly by WWI and WWII

Comment: There is a stylistic kinship of sorts with other home home styles that are casually (and incorrectly) taken as singular and not as a set. For example, American Victorian is a/k/a (Victorian, in each instance) 2nd Empire, Gothic, Italianate, Queen Anne, Folk, Stick, Shingle, and Richardsonian (Romanesque). Or for example, Southern Colonial ranges from Warburton House (1680) in James City County, VA or Christ’s Cross (a/k/a Cris Cross) (circa 1690) in New Kent County, VA and simpler, all the way up to Bacon’s Castle (1650) in Surry County, VA and Stratford Hall (1725) in Stratford, VA [noting that other examples abound either standing, or artistically captured earlier-on or reproduced, the author having chosen these for their geographical and temporal proximity, Post-Medieval English roots, and breadth of character].

You’ll find beaucoups publications about French Country on Amazon.com and at your local bookstore. To wit, along with a slew of other design-oriented books, a while back we ordered Provencal Inspiration: Living The French Country Spirit by Home Planners, and immediately received a notice that Amazon’s out of stock. French Country is back bigtime. As another, more recent example, our just completed custom house plans in French Country Style for a property in Asheville, NC will be offered later this year at $4+ million [and the facades really do have a rural sense to them].

French Country style reminds us more than most of Craftsman style – multiple roof slopes; windows of different sizes and heights; broad overhangs and soffits; knee braces and other exposures of construction structure; front-facing gables; a mix of gable, clipped gable, shed, and hip roofs; natural materials; masonry exterior, especially stone; a mix of finish clads; restraint in exterior accessories and adornments. French Country style can be comfortable and inviting in its more relaxed presentations.

However, French Country home design departs from the Arts & Crafts Movement in several respects: high-peaked, steeply sloped roofs at pitches way above Craftsman’s; a refinement in exterior trim particularly in rakes; an understatement of observable structure; gutter systems sometimes with gussied-up copper appointments; curved rooflines to accommodate steep slopes, larger windows, unpierced ceilings and interior walls; broad soffits; arches and curve-topped dormers, elaborated ironwork; balconies; turrets; Classic columns; masonry accessories in relief, some interest in symmetry, etc. Simplicity and elegance.

There are ways to botch French Country home design, e.g., hold rooflines to one pitch to assure consistent soffit depth and single-level eaves – in the name of cheap, easy, and stylistically insensitive; apply Corinthian columns in lieu of, say, Tuscan, or flute the Tuscan columns; confuse French styling with English, unbalance vertical and horizontal to favor horizontal; not mullion grouped windows, not apply true French casement windows; use plastic shutters, S-dog the shutters, not apply true French doors, asphalt shingle the roof, insist on broad facia and frieze boards, etc.

And there are ways to develop French Country home plans by using – contemporary technologies, among them, e.g., cost-efficient cultured stone, particularly in its fieldstone representations – perhaps by Owens Corning; and by using artistry, e.g., the half-round copper gutter systems of A. B. Raingutters, Inc., Classic Gutter Systems, L.L.C., the gas or electric luminaires of Charleston Lighting Company or the aluminum wrought-like railing of Southeaster Architectural Metals, the garage doors of the Carriage House Door Company, and the like.

French Country style encourages applying design principles of excellent residential design, such as, Russell Versaci’s Creating a NEW OLD HOUSE: Yesterday’s Character For Today’s Home, The Taunton Press, 2003, and Jacobson, Silverstein, and Winslow’s Patterns of Home: The Ten Essentials of Enduring Design, The Taunton Press, orig. 1941, reprint 2002; and, separately, sacred geometry. Here again, you can embrace and succeed or disregard and fail in the design effort.

Take, for example, the layering and other arrangement of finish clad, notably in steeply sloped gable ends. In Versaci’s realm of signaled, or suggested, age, it is the wise designer who specifies supposedly older, heavier (looking) materials – fieldstone and the like – from grade up to, say, L1, and then some lighter material higher up. Such arrangement and layering would be particularly in-keeping with more steeply sloped roof gable ends which would most unlikely be originally run up 2 stories under high, hard to support roof pitches. That is, L2 should and would appear to be of more recent vintage than L1, and presenting a story of age without such attention to detail is to send the gift horse packing.

Finally, in the vernacular of Patterns of Home, again for example, the French Country style readily lends itself to creating a courtyard, or “Creating Rooms, Outside”, and to dormered space demonstrating design keystones of “Refuge and Outlook” under a “Sheltering Roof,” particularly if the rooflines are low-profiled and trimmed more simply on L2 than on L1.

Before The Architect designs and drafts custom home plans nationwide. Its principals Ralph and Jean Pressel have worked hands-on together since the 60’s in custom home design, drafting, consulting, plus building and repair in every major trade. The e-book Home Design Standards – Home Building Standards and the website http://www.beforethearchitect.com are enterprises of Before The Architect’s principals.

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